Comments on: How to Raise Wonderful Kids - 15 Fantastic Tips to Shine as a Parent http://www.lifetweak.org/2008/01/31/how-to-raise-wonderful-kids-15-fantastic-tips-to-shine-as-a-parent/ a life improvement blog that helps people get more from their lives. Sat, 05 Jul 2008 09:38:42 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3 By: Harika Çocuklar Yetiştirmek İçin 15 Altın Öğüt | Mevsimlik Kadın Rehberi http://www.lifetweak.org/2008/01/31/how-to-raise-wonderful-kids-15-fantastic-tips-to-shine-as-a-parent/#comment-343 Harika Çocuklar Yetiştirmek İçin 15 Altın Öğüt | Mevsimlik Kadın Rehberi Sat, 19 Apr 2008 00:16:19 +0000 http://www.lifetweak.org/2008/01/31/how-to-raise-wonderful-kids-15-fantastic-tips-to-shine-as-a-parent/#comment-343 [...] gün şu adreste okuduğum bir yazıyı sizlerle paylaşmak istiyorum. Yazıda harika çocuklar yetiştirmek için [...] […] gün şu adreste okuduğum bir yazıyı sizlerle paylaşmak istiyorum. Yazıda harika çocuklar yetiştirmek için […]

]]> By: Jes http://www.lifetweak.org/2008/01/31/how-to-raise-wonderful-kids-15-fantastic-tips-to-shine-as-a-parent/#comment-243 Jes Sat, 15 Mar 2008 21:18:58 +0000 http://www.lifetweak.org/2008/01/31/how-to-raise-wonderful-kids-15-fantastic-tips-to-shine-as-a-parent/#comment-243 Chris said exactly what I was about to say. My parents' resolve not to ever argue in front of the kids had the same effect on me, that is, setting up unrealistic expectations and never allowing us to see healthy conflict resolution in action. I think it is very important not to portray yourselves as infallible to your kids. Let them see that two people who love and respect each other can have strong disagreements, and that they can be worked through in a positive, respectful way. Chris said exactly what I was about to say. My parents’ resolve not to ever argue in front of the kids had the same effect on me, that is, setting up unrealistic expectations and never allowing us to see healthy conflict resolution in action. I think it is very important not to portray yourselves as infallible to your kids. Let them see that two people who love and respect each other can have strong disagreements, and that they can be worked through in a positive, respectful way.

]]> By: Harika Çocuklar Yetiştirmek İçin 15 Altın Öğüt | İlkyardım Hakkında http://www.lifetweak.org/2008/01/31/how-to-raise-wonderful-kids-15-fantastic-tips-to-shine-as-a-parent/#comment-240 Harika Çocuklar Yetiştirmek İçin 15 Altın Öğüt | İlkyardım Hakkında Sat, 15 Mar 2008 11:48:36 +0000 http://www.lifetweak.org/2008/01/31/how-to-raise-wonderful-kids-15-fantastic-tips-to-shine-as-a-parent/#comment-240 [...] gün şu adreste okuduğum bir yazıyı sizlerle paylaşmak istiyorum. Yazıda harika çocuklar yetiştirmek için [...] […] gün şu adreste okuduğum bir yazıyı sizlerle paylaşmak istiyorum. Yazıda harika çocuklar yetiştirmek için […]

]]> By: Manu 2.0 http://www.lifetweak.org/2008/01/31/how-to-raise-wonderful-kids-15-fantastic-tips-to-shine-as-a-parent/#comment-147 Manu 2.0 Thu, 21 Feb 2008 07:27:25 +0000 http://www.lifetweak.org/2008/01/31/how-to-raise-wonderful-kids-15-fantastic-tips-to-shine-as-a-parent/#comment-147 Chris, Yes, those statistics do not account for parents who argue respectfully. It's just that, disrespectful words and yelling can really affect a child in a big way. Composed parents who talk and resolve differences will set very good examples for the child, as it will teach the kid how relationships need a bit of effort and that respecting others' ideas & talking can solve all issues. Chris,

Yes, those statistics do not account for parents who argue respectfully. It’s just that, disrespectful words and yelling can really affect a child in a big way.

Composed parents who talk and resolve differences will set very good examples for the child, as it will teach the kid how relationships need a bit of effort and that respecting others’ ideas & talking can solve all issues.

]]> By: Chris Cade http://www.lifetweak.org/2008/01/31/how-to-raise-wonderful-kids-15-fantastic-tips-to-shine-as-a-parent/#comment-127 Chris Cade Tue, 19 Feb 2008 06:30:24 +0000 http://www.lifetweak.org/2008/01/31/how-to-raise-wonderful-kids-15-fantastic-tips-to-shine-as-a-parent/#comment-127 Overall an enjoyable post, but there is one point which I disagree with quite strongly as written: "Don’t fight or argue in front of them. Statistics say that children who watched their parents fight all through childhood are more probable to become bad citizens." Those statistics do not account for parents who argue respectfully (which may include raising of voices and "firm" talking to one another) and allow their children to understand the true dynamics of relationships - that there are challenges and differences that need to be worked out. My parents never argued in front of me, and it set a precedent for not having realistic expectations about relationships and parenting. I was led to believe that "Happy ever after" was a realistic possibility, but now in a deeply heartful and meaningful marriage, I can say that "happy ever after" doesn't exist. It's something people really do have to work at, and by not allowing our children to see that side of relationships, we do a great injustice to their overall upbringing, emotional maturity, and relationship expectations. On that note, I do not approve of "fighting" in the context of name calling, yelling/screaming... anything that steps over the boundaries of being respectful to our partner. Overall an enjoyable post, but there is one point which I disagree with quite strongly as written:

“Don’t fight or argue in front of them. Statistics say that children who watched their parents fight all through childhood are more probable to become bad citizens.”

Those statistics do not account for parents who argue respectfully (which may include raising of voices and “firm” talking to one another) and allow their children to understand the true dynamics of relationships - that there are challenges and differences that need to be worked out.

My parents never argued in front of me, and it set a precedent for not having realistic expectations about relationships and parenting. I was led to believe that “Happy ever after” was a realistic possibility, but now in a deeply heartful and meaningful marriage, I can say that “happy ever after” doesn’t exist. It’s something people really do have to work at, and by not allowing our children to see that side of relationships, we do a great injustice to their overall upbringing, emotional maturity, and relationship expectations.

On that note, I do not approve of “fighting” in the context of name calling, yelling/screaming… anything that steps over the boundaries of being respectful to our partner.

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]]> By: UriShare - 15 fantastic tips to raise wonderful kids http://www.lifetweak.org/2008/01/31/how-to-raise-wonderful-kids-15-fantastic-tips-to-shine-as-a-parent/#comment-94 UriShare - 15 fantastic tips to raise wonderful kids Tue, 05 Feb 2008 20:36:52 +0000 http://www.lifetweak.org/2008/01/31/how-to-raise-wonderful-kids-15-fantastic-tips-to-shine-as-a-parent/#comment-94 [...] 15 fantastic tips to raise wonderful kids* Let your family be one of your top priorities. There are few things as important as your family and kids. Focus on your children. Spend time with them. Play and laugh with them. Make yourself a person who is fun to be with. * Listen to them. List Submitted: 4 days ago Category: Offbeat Submitter: RssFeed Website: www.lifetweak.org Report this link: Click here to report Comments: 0 [...] […] 15 fantastic tips to raise wonderful kids* Let your family be one of your top priorities. There are few things as important as your family and kids. Focus on your children. Spend time with them. Play and laugh with them. Make yourself a person who is fun to be with. * Listen to them. List Submitted: 4 days ago Category: Offbeat Submitter: RssFeed Website: www.lifetweak.org Report this link: Click here to report Comments: 0 […]

]]> By: Mindful Mimmi http://www.lifetweak.org/2008/01/31/how-to-raise-wonderful-kids-15-fantastic-tips-to-shine-as-a-parent/#comment-93 Mindful Mimmi Mon, 04 Feb 2008 08:59:22 +0000 http://www.lifetweak.org/2008/01/31/how-to-raise-wonderful-kids-15-fantastic-tips-to-shine-as-a-parent/#comment-93 Hi there, Like your blog and this post. I recently wrote a post on children's education as well with just some thoughts of mine and thoughts by Francoise Dolto. Have a look. http://mindfulmimi.blogspot.com/2008/01/while-we-try-to-teach-our-children-all.html Hi there,
Like your blog and this post. I recently wrote a post on children’s education as well with just some thoughts of mine and thoughts by Francoise Dolto. Have a look.

http://mindfulmimi.blogspot.com/2008/01/while-we-try-to-teach-our-children-all.html

]]> By: Manu 2.0 http://www.lifetweak.org/2008/01/31/how-to-raise-wonderful-kids-15-fantastic-tips-to-shine-as-a-parent/#comment-92 Manu 2.0 Mon, 04 Feb 2008 05:53:44 +0000 http://www.lifetweak.org/2008/01/31/how-to-raise-wonderful-kids-15-fantastic-tips-to-shine-as-a-parent/#comment-92 Sharon, I've changed the first photo and it's good that you brought this to my attention :) Anyway, that was a great pic! :) Manu. Sharon,

I’ve changed the first photo and it’s good that you brought this to my attention :) Anyway, that was a great pic! :)

Manu.

]]> By: Sharon http://www.lifetweak.org/2008/01/31/how-to-raise-wonderful-kids-15-fantastic-tips-to-shine-as-a-parent/#comment-90 Sharon Sun, 03 Feb 2008 05:33:52 +0000 http://www.lifetweak.org/2008/01/31/how-to-raise-wonderful-kids-15-fantastic-tips-to-shine-as-a-parent/#comment-90 Hi, I was just wondering, would you be able to remove the first photo? As much as I am honoured that you liked my photo, it is one I took of some friends (as opposed to my own family), and I had not realised that I had not changed the permissions on it at the time. (They have now been changed, and are no longer creative commons). Thanks, Sharon Hi,

I was just wondering, would you be able to remove the first photo? As much as I am honoured that you liked my photo, it is one I took of some friends (as opposed to my own family), and I had not realised that I had not changed the permissions on it at the time. (They have now been changed, and are no longer creative commons).

Thanks,

Sharon

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